Sex after 40
If you follow me on reddit you'll know I went out on a date with a couple about a month ago. They found me on an app. They seemed really sweet. They wanted to date me, not fuck me. It was about more than sex, sex would come later. They wanted to build something with me. We had a date, it went AMAZINGLY! omggggg. I'll call them bay and jay. Bay is the girl. She's so chill and down to earth. We seem like opposites but have soooo much in common. Like seriously bestie vibes. I don't click with many ppl but me and her??? We clicked. I love that girl. And I found him stupid hot. Ugh and when he flirted with me I melted. I was very careful not to do anything disrespectful. The date went on passed midnight and I didn't want to leave!!!!! But Jay had to work the next day so we had to call it a night. Everything seemed good so we made a date for my next kid free week. I was counting the days. Then the day before the date they cancelled on me and told me they wanted to put things on hold. I was devastated. I thought it was something I had done. They reassured me it wasn't the case. There was just a lot of life stuff going on for them. So I waited patiently.
Then yesterday around 4pm they text me out of the blue asking if i'm free that night. I, wanting to make the most of my kid free week, jumped at this chance and said hell yes tell me when and where. Before I begin, let me describe them for you. Both tall, he's about 6ft and she's like 5'7? 5'9? Hard to tell height when you're shorter than everyone. lol. They're both slim fit. She's blond with a banging body, he's brunette and looks like he could be on tv. Also great body, which I found out last night!! Ok so we meet at a place that has pool tables. I go in, get a drink, start talking to the guy next to me and they walk in. He was wearing a tshirt and jeans which I just LOVE a man in a tshirt, i think its so hot. She wore a form fitting mini jean dress with a zipper that goes all the way down the center, with cute sneakers. So freaking cute. We drank, talked, played pool. Then around 10 or 11 he was like, well, maybe we should get out of here. She had secured us a hotel room. I was like *gulp*. No expectations. So I went. We got in and they start taking out some gummies, chocolate edible and some liquid delta 8. They got high and I got mid. Lol I was afraid to do too much and just fall asleep. But they were both high. Me and Jay sat on the couch, I wore a sundress, he rubbed my legs and told me how smooth they were. All night this man made it VERY clear he wanted me. He leaned his head into my cleavage and breathed me in and gave me a hug. I held him to my chest and he grabbed handfuls of my juicy parts around my waist. I was like ok he likes my body. He seemed to be enjoying it. Melting into me. He kept saying how soft and yummy I was. It felt really nice. We all talked, Bay was sitting at the desk just watching us and talking. She's a voyeur. After hours of this they said lets move to the bed. Well Bay immediately takes off her clothes and gets under the covers. This is SO beyond new to me you guys. But I went with the flow. For some reason I was shy to get naked in front of them. I wasn't that sure yet. So I just took off my bra and got into bed in my dress. Jay stayed clothed too, for me. In bed....well.....the first thing he wanted to do was just lay on top of me, head in my chest, breathing me in, my legs together, he kind of humped my thighs while he caressed my sides. This was so hot. I've never had a guy enjoy my body like this. It felt....so nice. I felt so wanted. Next I popped a boob out of the top of my sundress and with my on my back he leaned in and started sucking. I don't know if this is his first pair of big tits or just the idea that i'm actively trying to lactate, but he just got lost. He like went into a different world. He sucked in a way I've never been sucked before. He instinctively latched like a baby would, getting as much in his mouth as possible. I felt like he was sucking me dry. He would stop and go "omg, that was.....what was that?" It was like something new he'd never experienced before. It was so hot and so special. Meanwhile Bay is in bed watching us, she's like this is so hot can i get out my toys? Sure! So she starts using her toys on herself while she watches him inhale me and caress me and pull my body in so close to him it was like he wanted to devour me. We got in different positions for him to nurse. At one point i was breathing hard and squirming and secretly wishing he would fuck me. Meanwhile she's moaning watching. Then I tell him lay on my lap and let me hang my boobs in your mouth. So he did. And while he did his gf started jerking him off. So imagine being a guy with one girl feeding you her big tits while the other strokes your cock. He was in heaven. None of us came that night. But we all had a really good time. They were high and sleepy and i could have stayed up all night doing this shit. He got naked and I got to see how sexy his body is. Both of them! Very sexy bodies! You guys would be jealous of me. lol. This morning we all woke up early and all we wanted to do was get back at it. She wanted to fuck and they asked if i would be ok with them having sex in front of me. I said sure, show me what you got. And then I watched them have sex and, my friends, it was beautiful. I didn't feel awkward. The curtains were draw so i mostly saw silhouette. These two beautiful bodies. It was like watching a beautiful love seen. He made her cum multiple times very quickly. Giving her diff kinds of orgasms even! Including a cervical orgasm! Which I've always wanted to try! goddamn this man knows how to work a womans body. What i loved the most about all of this was that it wasn't like porn. It wasn't that at all. It was so sensual and quiet and real. I love that. It was grown up sex. REAL sex. The kind of sex i've never had. It wasn't performative but you could tell they were locked into each other. After she was telling me about all the things he does and the diff orgasms and I was like wooooowww. And she was like, you wanna try some? Like basically offering me her man's dick right there. Omg you guys. So hot but a bit overwhelming. I just wasn't ready. lol. After that we talked alot. They said one of their girlfriends is a squirter and asked me if I am. I said yeah but I hold back alot. And they told me no way don't ever do that. It's a sign that you're enjoying yourself, its the ultimate release! That made me so happy. Then they fucked again. Then he got on my breast again, she lubed up his cock and gave him a very sensual handjob. Not a jackhammer type situation, but 2 hands, lots of lube, slow and sensual. It was hot as shit. I watched her while he nurse on me. His moans were so hot. After that they had to go bc they had a lot of stuff to do today. But he let me know once again that he WANTS me. which I love. They're both so cute, so hot, so freaking easy to talk to and comfortable. This was my first couple experience and the best experience ever. After I left i went to Kroger to get a few groceries before I pick up my kid later. Walking around Kroger I had faded make up, smeared mascara, disheveled hair, lol, ppl looked at me and i felt like they could all tell I got up to something last night. And the exhibitionist in me liked it. Then I got home and squeezed some drops of milk out of my nipple and sent them a video to show them how much his nursing helped. Shit I think my boobs might crave his mouth now!! And thats my story! i'm sure i'll have more fun stories with them. I think he's gonna help me learn to relax and have pleasure. This is the man who's gonna make me cum over and over. I can feel it. I've seen his work!!! At the risk of sounding like a boomer, shaking my fist and saying "these kids today...", I do feel like I've done some field research and gathered some observations.
Dating in my 40s, I use the term "dating" loosely as I can't even consider this dating as I'm not even being taken out on dates. Guys just wanna "get coffee" to see if you're even worth it. Or more likely to see if you're down to fuck. But I digress, dating in my 40s has made me privy to the behaviors of younger men. And after having experienced a number of them at this point I've come across some patterns. And you know, maybe this is how this generation (ppl in their 20s) all act. And I'm the outlier. So it's up to me to either adapt or just not fuck with them I suppose. As shiny and new and yummy as they are I keep forgetting none of them can give me what I want/deserve. It's tricky because they are eager. And a lot of them act as if they want to worship me. But their version of worship is....very lite. Very....macbook air, thin as a potato chip type worship. I'm over here like give me the big clunky thick old Dell laptop version of worship. Why are the young men attracted to older women? You know what, I'm getting ahead of myself. Let's get back to my findings. 1. Communication (HOW). Communication is VASTLY different. This generation doesn't communicate the same. I'm from a time of emails as a form of communication. And before that, even real letters (gasp!). I'm used to long form communication. It yields better conversation. If I give you a paragraph you've got plenty in there to respond to and that gets the conversation going. This generation never really had to do that. So this is a lost art. They communicate in bite sized chunks. Short sentences. And I guess thats reflective of other things. Dating app culture. Social media culture. Everything is instant. You can go on any app and customize your settings like you're customizing your bowl at Chipotle. It's either exactly how you want it or you toss it. I feel like this particular aspect applies mostly to women of this generation. Either he ticks all your boxes or he's out. If he has even one flaw, throw him out. Like damn girl, how are you ever gonna get to know anyone? We're all flawed. And a short blurb and some pics can't convey our entire personalities. How many times have you heard "i really couldn't stand her when i met her, but now we're best friends!". That shit is real. You have to get to know a person. Another digression, this post will be full of them. I find young men have very little to say. Then they want to move to snapchat and NOT COMMUNICATE AT ALL. Snapchat is not for writing. They talk in pictures. They just want to see you naked and get off. This is the opposite of the kind of connection I want to build. Do any of these people have a personality?? Is it reserved only for ppl in their every day life? I genuinely want to know you. Why won't you give me anything?? 2. Communication (WHEN) Another aspect of this I've seen patterns of is how often they choose to interact. This one was genuinely new to me and I really do think it must be indicative of this generation of 20 somethings. They don't prioritize talking. They don't have conversations. Like I said, everything is in snippets. They'll answer a question, then ask you one, then not respond for 12 hours. Like what? Then why engage if you're not going to respond? I don't get it. I'm used to when you really like someone and are excited to know them you just wanna chat with them as much as possible. Nope. Not them. Like, having a real time conversation for more than a minute or two is impossible. Which is so disappointing to me. Because how are we going to build any kind of connection if you don't talk to me? How do we build trust and get to know each other if you won't say more than a few words to me at any given time? They don't value good communication. I'm sorry but you get off work and you don't want to sit and talk to me at all the entire night? Then what are we doing? If you're not gonna prioritize time for me that why am I wasting any energy on you? I've had men text me while they were on official government business. lol. like, its all about what you value and prioritize. And I just feel like they don't value talking these days. Or they just don't get excited enough to talk to me. And I want to talk to someone who's excited to talk to me because thats the energy i bring. Which brings me to my next observation 3. Their time is the only time that matters or exists to them. I've heard guys this age complain about girls their age. Either they don't know what they want or they don't talk. Or I dunno maybe they're tired of putting forth effort. And maybe they think an older woman is easier. No pretense. She doesn't need anything from you but sex. This is the fantasy of the older woman. I am NOT that. They want a mommy. They want someone who will shower them with attention. But they only engage when they feel like it. Which is sporadic. So they're all focused on work. Which, hey, good for you. But again, you're not prioritizing me. You have your work, you have your free time which is YOUR time and i dare not question that. And maybe you'll send something here or there. The only time you're fully engaged is when you're horny. And yet you expect me to be available when you want. You expect me to pour my energy into you when you want it, and then do NOTHING to reciprocate that. If i'm only entertaining you during your work hours and during your free time I don't hear from you? pshh get the fuck out of here. If you want me to entertain you, pay me. And as someone from a generation of communication, if I bring any of this up and call them out on their bullshit they get mad and try to gas light me. But I don't do scraps. If you give scraps you get scraps. And I'm like why am I bothering with scraps when I could just not talk to them and make space for someone else? And if you try to squeeze me in instead of setting aside time for me, I'm not interested. Lady MWhat happens when you marry the 2nd guy you ever slept with and spend 20yrs thinking you just don't like sex? You get a divorce and realize just how sexual you actually are. Archives
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