Why do I keep entertaining these 20 something guys?

At the risk of sounding like a boomer, shaking my fist and saying "these kids today...", I do feel like I've done some field research and gathered some observations.

Dating in my 40s, I use the term "dating" loosely as I can't even consider this dating as I'm not even being taken out on dates. Guys just wanna "get coffee" to see if you're even worth it. Or more likely to see if you're down to fuck. But I digress, dating in my 40s has made me privy to the behaviors of younger men. And after having experienced a number of them at this point I've come across some patterns. 

And  you know, maybe this is how this generation (ppl in  their 20s) all act. And I'm the outlier. So it's up to me to either adapt or just not fuck with them I suppose. As shiny and new and yummy as they are I keep forgetting none of them can give me what I want/deserve. It's tricky because they are eager. And a lot of them act as if they want to worship me. But their version of worship is....very lite. Very....macbook air, thin as a potato chip type worship. I'm over here like give me the big clunky thick old Dell laptop version of worship. 

Why are the young men attracted to older women? You know what, I'm getting ahead of myself. Let's get back to my findings.

1. Communication (HOW).
Communication is VASTLY different. This generation doesn't communicate the same. I'm from a time of emails as a form of communication. And before that, even real letters (gasp!). I'm used to long form communication. It yields better conversation. If I give you a paragraph you've got plenty in there to respond to and that gets the conversation going. This generation never really had to do that. So this is a lost art. They communicate in bite sized chunks. Short sentences. And I guess thats reflective of other things. Dating app culture. Social media culture. Everything is instant. You can go on any app and customize your settings like you're customizing your bowl at Chipotle. It's either exactly how you want it or you toss it. I feel like this particular aspect applies mostly to women of this generation. Either he ticks  all your boxes or he's out. If he has even one flaw, throw him out. Like damn girl, how are you ever gonna get to know anyone? We're all flawed. And a short blurb and some pics can't convey our entire personalities. How many times have you heard "i really couldn't stand her when i met her, but now we're best friends!". That shit is real. You have to get to know a person. Another digression, this post will be full of them. I find young men have very little to say. Then they want to move to snapchat and NOT COMMUNICATE AT ALL. Snapchat is not for writing. They talk in pictures. They just want to see you naked and get off. This is the opposite of the kind of connection I want to build. Do any of these people have a personality?? Is it reserved only for ppl in their every day life? I genuinely want to know you. Why won't you give me anything??

2. Communication (WHEN)
Another aspect of this I've seen patterns of is how often they choose to interact. This one was genuinely new to me and  I really do think it must be indicative of this generation of 20 somethings. They don't prioritize talking. They don't have conversations. Like I said, everything is in snippets. They'll answer a question, then ask you one, then not respond for 12 hours.  Like what? Then why engage if you're not going to respond? I don't get it. I'm used to when you really like someone and are excited to know them you just wanna chat with them as much as possible. Nope. Not them. Like, having a real time conversation for more than a minute or two is impossible. Which is so disappointing to me. Because how are we going to build any kind of connection if you don't talk to me? How do we build trust and get to know each other if you won't say more than a few words to me at any given time? They don't value good communication. I'm sorry but you get off work and you don't want to sit and talk to me at all the entire night? Then what are we doing? If you're not gonna prioritize time for me that why am I wasting any energy on you? I've had men text me while they were on official government business. lol. like, its all about what you value and prioritize. And I just feel like they don't value talking these days. Or they just don't get excited enough to talk to me.  And I want to talk to someone who's excited to talk to me because thats the energy i bring. 

Which brings me to my next observation

3. Their time is the only time that matters or exists to them. I've heard guys this age complain about girls their age. Either they don't know what they want or they don't talk. Or I dunno maybe they're tired of putting forth effort. And maybe they think an older woman is easier. No pretense. She doesn't need anything from  you but sex. This is the fantasy of the older woman. I am NOT that. They want a mommy. They want someone who will shower them with attention. But they only engage when they feel like it. Which is sporadic. So they're all focused on work. Which, hey, good for you. But again, you're not prioritizing me. You have your work, you have your free time which is YOUR time and i dare not question that. And maybe you'll send something here or there. The only time you're fully engaged is when you're horny. And yet you expect me to be available when you want. You expect me to pour my energy into you when you want it, and then do NOTHING to reciprocate that. If i'm only entertaining you during your work hours and during your free time I don't hear from you? pshh get the fuck out of here. If you want me to entertain you, pay me. 

And as someone from a generation of communication, if I bring any of this up and call them out on their bullshit they get mad and try to gas light me. But I don't do scraps. If you give scraps you get scraps. And I'm like why am I bothering with scraps when I could just not talk to them and make space for someone else? And if you try to squeeze me in  instead of setting aside time for  me, I'm not interested.