It's simple, I'll give you want, but you have to give me what I want in return.

Simple enough concept. 

What do men want, really? Sex. The answer is always sex. It boggles my mind how men behave online, letting women know up front they want x,y,z and don't even offer anything in return. As if they're the prize. How do these men ever get laid?? It's an epidemic. Women have tons of options for sex. That's just reality. From the dawn of time men in different species, men have competed for the woman's attention. But I don't think men these days understand what women want.

It's not about money. It's not about power. It's about energy, and the right energy comes from knowing what a woman wants. You think like men, and what men want, and thats how you talk to women online. Then complain when so many gay men are in your DMs like woah is me. What did you expect? You offered the bait a man would  want, not a woman. Offering sex is something that would appeal to other MEN. That's what MEN want. That's what MEN think of as the end goal. Now i'm not saying women don't want sex, they do. But they have a sea of men to choose from. Think like a woman. How does it feel when all those guys are in your DMs even when you clearly said NO MEN? How does it feel when they get aggressive and try to convince you that a mouth is a mouth and a hole is a hole? Or how about when they curse at you when you finally make it CLEAR it's not gonna happen? Doesn't feel very nice. Now you've experienced 10% of what its like to be a woman online.

I'm aware of how men are treated online. Women are not without fault. Let me be clear about that. This is more to open your eyes to what women value. How do you make her feel? Women are always chasing a feeling. Women care less about money or looks and more about how you make them feel. And i'm not saying, just because you're nice she'll want you. But confidence, being secure, being emotionally mature,b being respectful,  these things go a LONG way. 

Unfortunately for me I'm trying to get over someone so I've had to go back on an app. I picked the quickest most upfront one. I'm not gonna make a love connection on apps.  I know better. This isn't even that. I just need a good distraction. Good dick and lots of attention and affection. 

Sooo many guys calling themselves "dom" just looking for someone they can use and abuse to fulfill their fantasies of rough sex. Can't tell you how many guys have scouted me and didn't give 2 shits about my wants, needs, or even my personality. To them I was literally a body to use. It's disgusting. 

The thing that sucks is we could have a mutually beneficial connection and both get what we want but SO many men are not even willing to consider what she wants. Why? men assume, once again, that THEY are the prize. Whether its their abs or their big dick or boasting about making them cum. Again, you're thinking like a dude.

I don't really give a shit how hot you are or how good you are at sex if you don't make me feel good. I want to feel known, seen, valued. Like you chose me for a reason, not bc I'm a walking pussy for you to destroy. 

I'm amazing. That's not even debatable. Men are SO afraid of commitment of ANY kind that they will shut down any kind of emotional connection, and sometimes any connection at all to play safe. So they can continue to fuck as many women as possible. I genuinely don't know any women personally, who want to have casual anonymous sex, be used and tossed aside. Oh there are women who want to FUCK and sometimes they don't want any complicated feelings either. But they ALL want to be treated like a person. Even if they want to be used in the bedroom, there has to be aftercare. 

I'm really sick of men who are allergic to feelings and think they can just take my body without depositing anything into my bank of feelings. Shame on these men. One day the will have their hearts ripped in half. Luckily I can spot them before it even gets that far anymore. I've gotten so much better at cutting these guys off on apps. 

If its going to be some kind of arrangement.....then let's make it fair. You get what you want, i get what I want. 

I'm very sexual when I want to be. I know what I'm doing. I love cock and I love to worship. I love to please. I'm very good at it. If you treat me right I will push my boundaries for you. What I require in return is to build some trust between us. I also require sweetness. Make me feel special. tell me i'm doing a good job. tell me how much you love my body. and after, let me know you still think about me. feeling special, wanted, valued, these things are so important, especially to a demisexual. Otherwise it just becomes all about you, and me being all over you and I REFUSE to ever do that again. 

My attention, my body, my energy, my devotion,  I give them all very generously. To someone who deserves them. Anyone would be lucky to have access to them. And in turn, I want my emotional needs met.

And that's it. I understand that now. It's not complicated. I'm going to be vocal about my needs and anyone who can't meet them isn't for me.