Story time - disappear and pop up again

There’s this guy I matched with on Tinder last year. He was very cute but gave me sad puppy dog vibes. Which…is a very delicious combination. We chatted and we were both getting out of long term relationships and still living with our exes at the time so we could relate on that level. We ended up texting and the conversation was amaaaazing. The vibes were right. We were both clearly very interested in each other. But he wasn’t sexual. He was conversational. We had conversation about sex without it getting sexual, if that makes sense. I was ready to  come over and watch tv and talk and hang and probably have sex with him. The vibe was so nice and conversational and comfortable. Something I raaaaaarely ever get from guys. They’re either too pervy or are trying to manipulate me by making me think they’re super into me. He was just himself. We texted all nigh, then the next day. And we wanted to meet up but our situations provided a challenge. Neither of us could host. He was trying to think of a way we could hang out, he has social anxiety pretty bad and says he can’t really be around other ppl. Hence the sad puppy dog vibes. I don’t know who hurt him but something affected his ability to be social for years. I don’t really know what happened there seemed to be some kind of miscommunication or something and he closed up. Stopped talking. I'm guessing it was some kind of anxiety thing, I've had this happen before with guys that have a lot of anxiety, when things get real they get scared. That was a shame.

Months later he messages me on Instagram. I was excited bc I thought…..yesss I am so interested! And he chatted a little but the disappeared again. And I could tell he was getting online, just not responding to me. HUUUUGE PET PEAVE of mine. Getting quiet with no explanation, not responding to messages. If you do that, I’m done. Learn to communicate. I am so understanding if you  just let me know what's going on. So I unfriended him.

​Cut to another month or 2 later I get a message from him saying “hey sorry I was busy. “ “and why won’t you let me follow you?” So I let him follow me and waited for him to say anything. After another month I messaged him like what’s your deal dude? We matched we had a good connection. But you don’t talk, you don’t wanna be friends, you don’t wanna fuck, you don’t even wanna meet, so why are you even following me? Just nosey? I gave him ample time to respond. Seeing that he read it, and had been online several times after that and never responded. After a week I unfriended him again and now I am officially done with his stupid ass. Honestly I need to stop giving guys so many fucking chances. I need to be stricter. If you chat me up and the disappear and stop talking to me you’re sending a very clear message. If you want to talk to me again you better make a fucking effort bc I’m not here to entertain you when you’re bored and need attention. That shit infuriates me.